Releasing Societal Beauty Standards: My Journey to Self-Acceptance and Healing

VIOLETTE DE AYALA

FEMCITY FOUNDER + SMALL BUSINESS EXPERT + LIFESTYLE INFLUENCER

In a world where beauty standards are often defined by societal expectations, finding self-acceptance can be a challenging journey. I’ve always believed in sharing my truth, hoping to uplift others in our community. Today, I want to open up about something deeply personal—my experience with societal beauty standards, the decisions I made, and the healing that followed. This is my story of how I let go of external pressures to embrace my own unique definition of beauty and aging.

My Journey with Beauty Standards
About 12 years ago, I decided to undergo breast augmentation surgery. At the time, I wasn’t entirely sure why, but after giving birth to my third child, I found myself feeling less content with my body. Having struggled with childhood obesity, my appearance had always been something I paid attention to, and somehow, I felt my breasts were a part of that equation.

Perhaps it was the societal pressures, or the influence of living in Miami, where cosmetic surgery is almost a norm. Somewhere along the way, I connected my self-worth to an image I believed I needed to maintain. Even on the day of surgery, I felt regret, and that regret lingered for 12 long years.

The Shift: Menopause and Self-Reflection
A few years ago, as I started experiencing menopause, my body changed in ways I didn’t expect. My breasts grew larger, causing back pain, shoulder indentations, and daily discomfort. After much reflection and a desire to reconnect with my authentic self, I decided to undergo a breast explant and reduction surgery.

The day of the surgery, I was filled with emotions—nervousness, anxiety, and even tears. But the kindness and support from my surgeon and the staff reassured me, and for that, I’m deeply grateful.

Healing and Releasing Old Narratives
Now, three weeks post-surgery, I feel more like myself than I have in years. The physical pain has subsided, and I sense a deeper emotional healing. My body feels lighter, the inflammation is decreasing, and I’m filled with new energy. Most importantly, I’ve released the shame and guilt I carried for so long.

I finally feel at home in my body. I no longer feel weighed down by societal beauty standards or the pressure to conform to unrealistic expectations. I am free.

Embracing Your Unique Beauty
We are all beautiful in our own unique way. Whether you choose plastic surgery or any other physical transformation, it’s a personal decision that should never be tied to shame. No one should feel judged or embarrassed for their choices. If, like me, you’ve made decisions in the past and held on to guilt or shame, I invite you to release those feelings. Let go of the energy that no longer serves you.

A Call to Self-Love
The most important relationship we have is the one with ourselves. Love yourself, wholly and completely, with all your perceived imperfections, past decisions, and unique beauty. You are perfectly imperfect, and there’s incredible power in embracing and celebrating the beautiful soul that is uniquely you.

Conclusion
My journey of releasing societal beauty standards has brought me immense healing and self-acceptance. If you’re struggling with external pressures or past decisions, know that your beauty is not defined by society but by how you feel in your own skin. Honor your body, honor your choices, and embrace the person you are today.

With love,
Violette de Ayala
Founder of FemCity